Question for Discussion

How do you stop the cycle of abuse and make different choices?

One fear that I have is that having been raised in a cycle of abuse, where my mother has been raised in that cycle, adn my father has been rasied in that cycle, how do i ensure for my future family to break that cycle? how can you tell wether a man would be abusive or not? are there warning signs? if so what are they?

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